Making Friends

’Tis the season for book festivals, library events, and book discussion groups here in New Jersey and beyond. Such events are perfect opportunities to reach out to others and pay attention to their current reading interests, as well as to share my story and my passion for well-crafted memoirs. Let’s face it: We all want “to be seen, be heard, and be understood.”

Here’s a sampling of upcoming events open to the public. You are invited (at no charge) to stop by and see various authors in action!

  • Indie Author Day 2018 on Saturday, October 13, 2018, 1 PM to 4 PM, at Springfield Public Library, 66 Mountain Avenue, Springfield, NJ 07081. I will be one of a dozen featured authors to celebrate our love of reading books and to engage in book talk with others over cookies and beverages. For more info see this link: http://www.sfplnj.org/programs/calendar/icalrepeat.detail/2018/10/13/4413/-/indie-author-day
  • Author Expo on Monday, October 22, 2018, 10 AM to 8 PM (I’ll be there 12 noon to 2 PM) at Monroe Township Library, 4 Municipal Plaza, Monroe Township, NJ 08831. This day-long “meet and greet” event with authors offers an opportunity to learn about books for yourself or for others on your gift list.
  • Local Author Day on Saturday, November 10, 2018, 1 PM to 4 PM, at Hillsborough Public Library, 379 South Branch Road, Hillsborough Township, NJ 08844. This gathering of 30 authors from many genres includes author readings and book displays as well as plenty of opportunities for one-on-one interactions.

NP Book Festival 2018

I’m so grateful I was one of the featured authors at the New Providence Book Festival held on Saturday, September 22, 2018. This outdoor event on Springfield Avenue attracted a marvelous crowd of people eager to celebrate a shared interest in books. The highlight for me was serving as moderator of an afternoon “We Love Books!” author panel, along with mystery book author Michael Stephen Daigle (website: michaelstephendaigle.com) and multi-genre (including fantasy and Gothic) author Linda Raedisch (Facebook page: facebook.com/linda.raedisch). A fun day making new friends!

 

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Memes Matter, #5

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Sooner or later, someone who struggles with sexual identity will show up at your door. Please pay attention, listen with an open mind and an open heart, and show compassion.

And what about their spouse? The coming-out experience for those who are already in a heterosexual marriage does indeed have an impact on one’s spouse. (What an understatement!)

In the growing number of coming-out stories, the straight spouse always gets short shrift. Developing empathy for the person who is married to someone who turns out to be gay often takes a back seat to the drama of their partner’s journey in resolving his or her sexual identity. Such straight spouses are more likely to be regarded as clueless idiots lacking “gaydar” (a supposedly innate ability to detect someone is gay), victims of a master imposter/scam artist spouse, co-conspirator secret keepers, or punch lines of a bad joke.

So please be part of the solution, not part of the problem, in embracing sexual diversity.

This meme concludes the launch of my first series of memes as conversation starters on social media (namely, Facebook and Twitter) with messages that are relevant to the subject matter of my memoir this month, which marks the one-year anniversary of my book’s release (image credit for these 5 memes: Pexels.com). What do you think?

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Memes Matter, #4

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Let’s face it: Sometimes the unthinkable happens to you or someone you love. You feel the pain and despair. It’s devastating.

Almost never does it help to hear the words: “Get over it.”

I try to remember to breathe. Take long, deep, healing breaths. That’s one way to begin finding one’s way through it all. Better yet, be on the lookout for someone who can listen because, sooner or later, we all discover we “cannot go it alone.”

I’m launching a series of memes as conversation starters on social media (namely, Facebook and Twitter) with messages that are relevant to the subject matter of my memoir this month, which marks the one-year anniversary of my book’s release. Here’s another meme (image credit: Pexels.com). What do you think?

 

 

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Memes Matter, #3

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Such a hard lesson to learn, especially for those of us who have serious “letting go” issues.

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”—Ann Landers

I’m launching a series of memes as conversation starters on social media (namely, Facebook and Twitter) with messages that are relevant to the subject matter of my memoir this month, which marks the one-year anniversary of my book’s release. Here’s another meme (image credit: Pexels.com). What do you think?

 

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Memes Matter, #2

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It takes courage to come to terms with your sexual identity. Everyone’s journey is different. For some, it happens early on. For others, it’s complicated. I want to live in a world in which clergy can be your friend in this journey.

Consider these words: “‘Coming-out’ is an overly reductive term, as if at one moment you’re in the closet and then the next, you’re not. For most of us, that’s not how it happens. The process of revelation is more like an Advent calendar, where you open door after door, behind each of which is a different element of identity.” —Jeff Chu, author of Does Jesus Really Love Me? A Gay Christian’s Pilgrimage in Search of God in America (Harper, 2013)

I’m launching a series of memes as conversation starters on social media (namely, Facebook and Twitter) with messages that are relevant to the subject matter of my memoir this month, which marks the one-year anniversary of my book’s release. Here’s another meme (image credit: Pexels.com). What do you think?

 

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Memes Matter, #1

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I’m launching a series of memes as conversation starters on social media (namely, Facebook and Twitter) with messages that are relevant to the subject matter of my memoir this month, which marks the one-year anniversary of my book’s release.

It’s my way of drawing attention to how we all need to “turn to, not on,” each other with respect and dignity. Creating a world in which we accept and embrace sexual diversity can make a difference and encourage individuals to come to terms with their sexual identity early on.

Here’s the first meme (image credit: Pexels.com). What do you think?

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Podcast Adventure

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I’m delighted to introduce you to the “In The Ladies’ Room with Dr. Donnica” podcast series, hosted by Dr. Donnica Moore. She dares to explore a wide range of topics related to women’s health and all things personal with an open mind, a sense of adventure, and a sparkling personality.

Dr. Donnica invited me to share some intimate details about my love story. You can find out for yourself at this first link (video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZ678hnVNDw&feature=youtu.be 

or this link (audio only): http://intheladiesroomwithdrdonnica.libsyn.com/website

or this link (for those with iTunes access): https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/in-the-ladies-room-with-dr-donnica/id1330779402?mt=2&i=1000416680037

You can learn about my own memorable experiences in the ladies’ room during the first 5 minutes of the podcast. Then follow the twists and turns of our hour-long conversation to discover how it all turns out.

Not only am I thrilled to be a guest on “In The Ladies’ Room with Dr. Donnica” (episode 56), but I’m now a fan of her podcasts. I’m working my way through listening to all of them. [Tip: I listen during my daily workouts so I can exercise both my body and my mind at the same time. It’s easy to keep exercising beyond my initial time period because I want to keep listening.]

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My first podcast!

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